Why do we care so much about what others think?

When our goal is to be our authentic self, why do we let other peoples’ negative opinions hurt or hold us back?

Where does this need for validation and approval come from, and how can you learn to overcome it so that you can feel confident in the choices you make, and the ways you authentically express yourself?

 

In parts 1 & 2 of this double-episode, we go deep on

  • The personal, social, evolutionary reasons why we can seek others’ approval;
  • What are the pitfalls, challenges and lessons, and what’s in it for our personal growth;
  • How we can be our Authentic Selves, and connect with people who we can Be that ‘Self’ with;
  • And how to choose who’s opinions to embrace, who’s to reject, and the reasons why.

Episodes 7 & 8 RESOURCE : I just read a wonderful book by Radha Agarwal, ‘Belong’, where she talks all about creating your own tribe or community of like-minded and like-hearted people to be a part of. Actually, I listened to in on Audible, and I loved hearing it read by her.

This is a great resource on this topic, and I highly recommend it. Belong, Radha Agarwal.

Why do we care so much about what others think?

When our goal is to be our authentic self, why do we let other peoples’ negative opinions hurt or hold us back?

Where does this need for validation and approval come from, and how can you learn to overcome it so that you can feel confident in the choices you make, and the ways you authentically express yourself?

 

In parts 1 & 2 of this double-episode, we go deep on

  • The personal, social, evolutionary reasons why we can seek others’ approval;
  • What are the pitfalls, challenges and lessons, and what’s in it for our personal growth;
  • How we can be our Authentic Selves, and connect with people who we can Be that ‘Self’ with;
  • And how to choose who’s opinions to embrace, who’s to reject, and the reasons why.

Episodes 7 & 8 RESOURCE : I just read a wonderful book by Radha Agarwal, ‘Belong’, where she talks all about creating your own tribe or community of like-minded and like-hearted people to be a part of. Actually, I listened to in on Audible, and I loved hearing it read by her.

This is a great resource on this topic, and I highly recommend it. Belong, Radha Agarwal.

WARNING - EXPLICIT CONTENT. Not for young ears.

Story of past traumas. We’ve all had our own. In today’s episode, Samantha shares some of hers, and the evolution of her self-empowerment through abandonment, abuse, and codependency, and has a deep understanding of how to help others through this process as well, through her coaching work.

Join in the conversation, with cohost Erin Furner, as they talk about what becomes possible when we heal past traumas.

There’s many things we care about as mums, and many balls we’re juggling.

So how do we deal with those moments when we feel like we’re failing?

Erin Furner shares as example from her own life, and the fear it brings up when feeling like we’re not meeting the expectations we put on ourselves.

As always, it comes back to Self, and so in this episode we explore the signs, how it feels, where it comes from, and how to give ourselves the clarity, compassion, and the break we need from the pressure to do it all. Also, it’s about learning to reprogram our childhood programming when it doesn’t serve us in the present.

We want to be a great role-model for our children, so we talk about how to embody something we also want our kids to learn.

Thank you Erin for your vulnerable share; As always, true stories from the heart connect and inspire to so many going through the same kind of experience.

Finding Time for the things most important to You.

“A year from now, you may wish you had started today”

With so many things pulling on our attention, so many “to-do’s” on our daily list, how do we still find the time

to actually give time towards building our dreams, aspirations and goals?

One of the things that used to be an issue for me (and a really strong pain point), was getting to the end of each day having taken care of everyone else’s needs, and realising that I wasn’t even on the “to-do” list; that somehow amongst the busyness of the day, and all I gave, it seemed that no-one had taken care of me. I realised years ago, that I had to be the one first and foremost who took care of Me, who prioritised my own needs and wants onto my daily list.

It wasn’t until I learned to put my own self-care onto my list of vital priorities, that others around me could also learn how to put me onto their list as well.

It took me giving myself the gift of valuing myself enough to be able to clarify how and where I was devaluing my own time, energy and efforts, to then be able to recognise and then communicate my own wants and needs to others around me. Only then, was I able to make a stand for myself, my vision, my goals, and spread the responsibility of raising a family and running a household more equally around (Ladies, I know you’re hearing me!).

Because honestly, on the micro level, I realised I could have more value, fulfilment, direction, and purpose spending one hour developing my business and my passion than I could if I’d instead spend that hour cleaning the house, for example. I realised how that “1 hour” had the potential to make the biggest impact, not only in that moment, but it’s something that actually builds towards living my dream one day.

I realised “something’s gotta give”, so I understood what was worth giving up, and what was worth following. Interestingly, back then I didn’t feel like I had “enough time” to even dare dream about a passionate life where I was making a positive impact on other women - I mean, my day was already so full, right? I couldn’t possibly fit anything else in ... could I??

Well for me it was learning about how to let go of what’s not important, and what’s not building towards that wonderful, beautiful future self that I envision for myself.

And then valuing that vision as so dear and important to me, so important that when I future-visualised my future life, I couldn’t bear the thought of life being the same as it was that day for the next 10, 20, 30 years.

There’s a saying “A year from now, you may wish you had started today”, and so the shift in my mindset had become in understanding what it is that I had to be doing today, that my future self could thank me for.

What is it that YOUR future self could thank you for starting today?

Tune in to discover the steps and strategies to overcoming the so-common projection of “I just don’t have enough time”. We talk about how we manage this misconception, and how to find time for the things that really, truly matter to you, and that beautiful future-self that you have living inside of you RIGHT NOW.

I know that there’s a whisper on the inside of you now, that knows that you have bigger and more fulfilling things in your potential, and in your future.

I make a stand for that voice, for the voice others may not hear from you, or you yourself may not yet currently give air to.

That voice is your future-self whispering to you, calling you to follow the fragrance that will lead you to unlocking much greater purpose in your life.

 

With love, Samantha

 

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Episode 4's Resource :

We talked about many things that really make a difference to you creating more time for what matters most to you, and during the podcast, I promised to post one of the resources I mentioned here in the show notes. You can access it here :

www.empoweryourpotential.com.au/resources.htm#StephenCovey-UrgentImportantMatrix 

What does it truly mean to Connect with yourself? What does it look like, and what does it give you?

The more deeply you connect with yourself, and give You what You need, the healthier your connections with others become, and the richness of relationship with others can deepen.

Connecting with yourself also aligns you with the Universal energy that we are all a part of, and allows us to create a life aligned with our Values, as we are granted the awareness and ability to work with the Universal force that moves and creates all things.

 

“The depth to which we can connect with ourselves,

is the depth to which we can connect with others

and the Universal Force around us.”

Samantha Ember

Do you ever wonder why you sometimes don’t feel good enough, or not quite okay with where you are? Do you sometimes feel uneasy with where you’re at, knowing that you want to be somewhere else, experiencing something else, feeling something different to what you’re feeling in that moment?

Welcome to a really common experience - you are NOT alone in feeling this.

How do we feel a sense of acceptance, connection and self-love, when so much seems to go wrong at times, or where we’re itching to arrive at the next level, and are feeling impatient with the gap between where we are and where we want to be?

In today’s episode we discuss all of this, as well as share some insight and tools to help you move through and shift these moments, as well as one of the vital keys to creating a wonderful blueprint for your path ahead.

You are SO worthy of experiencing what it is you desire to experience 💗

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Episode 2 RESOURCES:
Empower Your Potential Values List - download link here: www.EmpowerYourPotential.com.au/resources.htm

YOU ARE HERE BECAUSE ... YOU KNOW THERE’S MORE TO YOU THAN MEETS THE EYE

More than the roles you play, the things you do, the face that you show.
You want to bring out the Real Authentic You that is underneath.
You want to feel connected to a Tribe of like-minded women, able to share your truths, aspirations, challenges and heart, and to feel inspired and supported as you bring your inner-woman to the Campfire.

Welcome, to The Real Woman Podcast
Taking a deep dive into the Woman’s Empowering Journey of growth and discovery.
Join me and my beautiful guests, Wholeheartedly sharing our Real-Life-stories.
We are unpeeling the layers to bring out more of the True Woman that lives beneath.
We’re bringing YOU the wisdom, heart, and connection gathered along the way.

The Real Woman Podcast - Empowering Your Inner Woman
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